Not every physically disabled person is as severe as our son, but regardless of the degree of limitation, each person and his family must adjust and flourish in an environment that is not of their choosing. It’s similar to a military assignment that places one in a foreign country. The climate is difficult, a new language is spoken, time zones have changed, and your progress is impeded by the lack of knowledge of the new culture. To us, it was similar to the wilderness experience of the children of Israel. We had to learn dependence upon God’s care and provision and how to function within the limitations that were placed upon us. We know, beyond a shadow of doubt, that all things are working together “for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to His purpose.”
We believe that when God places a challenged person in the local church (regardless the type of disability), it is to assist the church in operating in Agape love. We are given the opportunity to look beyond the outward appearance and see the heart of a person. Everyone has the same need for love, acceptance, longsuffering, patience, goodness, and kindness. Often there is no physical acknowledgement of extended kindnesses, but there is reward in knowing you have pleased the heart of God. We have to keep in mind that everyone, including the challenged, is created with a purpose in mind. As we minister to them, we minister unto Christ.
It doesn’t take much to express love and acceptance in the church setting. A kind word, a door held open, remembering a birthday, even a little humor can bring sunshine to a life. Grasping a hand that cannot be extended is an excellent way of saying, “I’m not afraid of you.” Providing an area that’s wheelchair accessible, and an extra volunteer to give special attention to needs would be helpful in incorporating the challenged into classes. Most specially challenged people enjoy doing as much for themselves as possible. Just a little assistance may be needed. Don’t be concerned about cognitive abilities. What is needed is that this special person be accepted and appreciated in love as part of the Body of Christ.
All of us struggle with imperfections, whether physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. Our loving Father does not abandon us, ignore us, or throw us away. He lovingly walks beside us, giving guidance, instruction, and care. He protects us and supplies our every need. We learn to have grateful hearts when we can see God’s hand in the small things. It’s in the small things that we are able to express genuine love and concern for that special person that God places in our midst.
